At what point?

At what point do things like "showering" and "scooping out the litterboxes" stop counting as accomplishments? At what point do those become "given" parts of your day and the only accomplishments that count are things like getting a job (or setting up volunteer work, in my case, which is causing undue anxiety) or writing a book or something of a LARGER nature?

Cuz I took another look at Maslow's damned triangle and I realized I am trying to fix the top three items while the first two (basics such as food and shelter and the ability to be secure about having those needs met) are constantly on the verge of collapsing, which makes me wonder if I'm somehow going about this whole thing backwards...

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These things become self-evident and not worth the mentioning, when you don't constantly have to struggle with yourself.
Which means, this only applies to people without mental problems and without permanent physical problems of a lasting nature.
Showering—or bathing; I don't have a shower—and scooping out the litter box are always major accomplishments for me.

Seriously, I pat myself on the back every chance I get; if I don't, no one will.
So to revisit:

Physiological needs: food, water, air, clothing, basic shelter, and in your case a medication or two. You have no guarantee that these will come indefinitely, but you're in the system and working toward it. On the whole, this is as covered as you can hope for from hour to hour, or from day to day.

Safety: Hygiene, privacy, transportation, close companions who watch your back, the balance of your meds. See above.

Love/belonging: The people who have your back have adopted you into their tribe out of love, so that's covered - at least to the extent that you can believe it to be so.

That puts us at Esteem, where total strangers take you seriously and you can see around you ways in which you've had an influence on your world. The rest is knowing that you're not counting on the forbearance of people who might need or want those resources for other things, knowing that you're giving at least as much as you take.

...And if I've got this right, where you're at makes sense - at least to your mammalbrain. You might be crazy, but not across-the-board. (Not one bit.) You're trying to put your effort where it will bring the best return on investment under the circumstances.

Sure, knowing that your life isn't going to fall apart instantaneously AGAIN is hugely important to your mental health, but as previously discussed your efforts to be certain in that knowledge are subject to processes to which you must react, rather than being likely to succeed by virtue of your proactive effort alone.

Edited at 2017-08-15 06:35 am (UTC)